Category: Story

  • Silent Prayer

    When I first began my career in coaching and training, I found it very hard to just sit in silence.

    The silence of waiting for someone to give a thought was palpable. It also arose when waiting for an answer to a question. Or even when asking for a volunteer. I had a need to fill the silence.

    Do you ever feel that way when you pray?

    My prayer often looks something like this…I pray for what I want. I thank. I want. I thank. I talk. I listen. And then I talk some more. I find myself so drawn to stay in conversation with Him.

    I get tired of repeating what I know He already heard. I also get tired of mentioning what I know He has already taken care of. I just don’t know the outcome yet.

    As a natural introvert, I get anxious going to events where I don’t know people. I stress over what to talk with people about. How to start a conversation without relying on weather talk. How to avoid offending them by asking what they may find to be a personal question.

    How to keep a conversation going in- order- to avoid that awkward silence and stand there with nothing to say.

    Can you relate? I am in awe of individuals who can immediately feel comfortable at those events and know just what to say.

    Communication is a two way street. It’s not all up to me to keep the conversation going. It is a joint effort and a combination of both talking and listening. Listening for those clues in the conversation that will spark other topics of conversation.

    I think prayer needs to be the same way. Not just one sided talking about what I want, need, and desire. It’s also about listening.

    Just being quiet in the silence to hear what is being said. We need to just Be.

    When I sit in the quiet and silence my mind. I realize I am being drawn not to keep talking to Him. Instead, I am drawn to “be” with Him. To just rest in His presence and know I am okay.

    He asks us to “be still and know that He is God.” We don’t have to work to fill the silence.

    I have been in a time of In-between lately. A time of no longer and not yet. This in between place is also a place that can feel very silent. A time of feeling very alone. A time when I am drawn to fill the silence with anything but that…silence.

    What God has had me doing doesn’t seem to be working. However, I am not yet in the fullness of God’s promise. It’s easy to feel stuck, uncertain, and restless. I have found in scripture that this in-between season is not without purpose.

    In 2 Corinthians 5:5, we’re told that we are “God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

    Even in the waiting, God is working in us and through us.

    I have found that the best things to do when in a season of in-between, is to:

    1. Pursue intimacy with God: I have used this season to deepen my relationship with the Lord. Spending time in prayer, reading Scripture, and worship. As I have drawn near to Him, I’ve found comfort, guidance, and strength for the journey ahead.
    2. Reflect and learn: It has been a time to reflect on the season I may have to leave behind. What has God taught me? What can I carry forward into the new chapter? What are areas for growth? What do I need to surrender to God?
    3. Prepare for what’s next: I might not know exactly what God has in store. However, I can prepare my heart and mind. I can develop habits, skills, and character that will serve me well in the future.
    4. Serve others: I have looked for ways to serve and bless those around me. It has been a powerful way to shift my focus from my own waiting to being a blessing to others.
    5. Trust in God’s sovereignty: I am remembering that God is working all things together for my good (Romans 8:28). I trust that He has a plan, even when I can’t see the outcome.

    If you are navigating the in-between, hold fast to the promise of Jeremiah 29:11.

    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

    My friend, I pray that you find peace, purpose, and joy in the in-between. Know that God is with you every step of the way.

    Trust Him enough to simply rest in His presence. To simply be…

    In the silence.

    With love and joy,

    Laura

  • All about the Comma

    “Never put a period where God has put a comma. God is still speaking.” – Gracie Allen

    Have you ever felt like your life was over, like there was no more hope, no more chances?

    Maybe you’ve faced a difficult diagnosis, a painful breakup, or a career-ending failure. In those moments, it’s easy to believe that God has put a period at the end of your story.

    But, are you still alive?

    If so, I’d like to encourage you. God didn’t put a period. Instead, He put a comma. If you are still alive, you still have living to do!

    He put a comma to indicate a pause, a breath, a new clause in the sentence of your life.

    This quote, “Never put a period where God puts a comma,” powerfully reminds us that our lives are not over. This is true even when it feels like they are.

    It’s a reminder that God is still writing our story. He has a plan to prosper us, not to harm us (Jeremiah 29:11).

    Let’s take a look at the story of Lazarus.

    In John 11, we read the story of Lazarus, a man who was sick and died. His sisters, Mary and Martha, were devastated. They hoped that Jesus would come and heal their brother. However, He didn’t arrive until after Lazarus had passed away.

    In their grief, Mary and Martha put a period at the end of Lazarus’ story. They believed that his life was over, and that there was no more hope.

    But Jesus came and said, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die” (John 11:25).

    And then, in one of the most amazing moments in all of Scripture, Jesus called out to Lazarus, “Come out!” (John 11:43). And Lazarus, who had been dead for four days, came out of the tomb, alive!

    This story is a powerful reminder that God doesn’t always put periods. Sometimes, He puts commas.

    And when He does, it means that there is more to come. There is more life to live. There is more hope to hold onto.

    Friend, If you’re feeling like your life is over, it may seem like there’s no more hope or chances. Remember, God doesn’t always put periods. He puts commas. And that means that there is always more to come, there is more life to live.

    Never put a period where God puts a comma.

    These are powerful words to live by. They remind us that our lives are not over, even when it feels like they are. God is still writing our story, and He has a plan to prosper us, not to harm us.

    I remember sitting with my sweet sister Sara during her last days here on earth. One of the last things she said was, “I want people to continue learning. Learning to believe and trust in God as I have tried to be God’s disciple. BUT,” she said, “it’s not about me. It’s about Him. That is the message I want people to hear.”

    Sara and God didn’t want to end this ministry. Event though He put a period on her life physically, the message needed to continue.

    She and God wanted to use a comma.

    It has been quite a journey. Sometimes it feels like God has put a period as I struggle to understand next steps. He has also shown me time and time again that it’s only a comma.

    My role is to be intentional. Be intentional in keeping an open mind, a humble heart, and faithful feet, to walk where HE leads.

    I encourage you, take a deep breath, my friend. Trust that God has more in store for you. He sometimes puts commas, not periods. And that means that there is always hope, always more life to live.

    Our role is to be intentional in remembering, this life is not about us. It’s not about our wants, needs, and desires. It is about Him. It’s about Him using us to fulfill His plan and purpose for us and this world.

    Stay tuned…more to come,

    With love and joy,

    Laura

  • A Beautiful Dance

    A Beautiful Dance

    The above picture is my dad and I dancing at my wedding.

    I grew up in a family that loves to dance. My mom and dad’s first date included dancing, and that tradition continued throughout their marriage. They were blessed with six kids, three boys and three girls. The birth order was boy, girl, boy, girl, boy, girl. My dad always said that it took a lot of talent to pull that off!

    Our Saturday nights together consisted of watching Lawrence Welk. We paired up with our dance partner. We danced through the house to the lively music! Oh, the memories of the “good old days.”

    I learned early on the importance in dance is that someone has to lead and the other has to follow. The leader must keep the partnership in time with the song. The dance partner’s job is to follow based on cues and signals from the one leading the dance.

    I think life is a dance. Sometimes we need to lead, and other times we need to follow.

    When we follow, we choose to honor the one who leads us.

    God commands us to honor others.

    This isn’t always easy because there are definitely times when we don’t necessarily respect the actions or decisions of others.

    I think honor is more about me and my heart than it is about the person I am honoring. I choose to have the heart of a servant. When I honor every person I cross paths with, the choice shapes everything I say and do.

    Most importantly we are called to honor God.

    …”Those who honor me I will honor, but those who despise me will be disdained.” 1 Samuel 2:30 (NIV)

    Without complete and genuine honor to God, it will be impossible to honor anyone else. So, this is where it starts. We are called to honor God in what we say, what we do, in our finances, in all things!

    God commands us to honor our parents.

    “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12 (NIV)

    The command to honor our parents may seem easy to some. It is much more challenging for others who were raised in negative or abusive environments. Are all parents deserving of honor? No. Does God still command it? Yes.

    This is one of those times when we may find it hard to carry out that command to honor. So, I think we first have to check our own heart. We can choose not to think or speak ill of them, no matter what has happened. Forgive them for any offenses, and most importantly, pray for them. We can still honor them, even if we can’t be in relationship with them.

    God commands us to honor our spouse.

    “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together.” 1 Peter 3:7 (NLT)

    God has commanded honor within marriage for several reasons. Honoring marriage will bless the husband and the wife. It will also bless their children, grandchildren, and everyone else around them. Additionally, marriage is a symbol of Christ and the Church.

    When we honor God above all else, our life will be like a beautiful dance. Life will go much smoother if we take our cues. We need to get in rhythm with the music of life. Gracefully follow where He leads us.

    My friend, I know from experience. When I try to take over and lead my life, I get off rhythm. I stumble because I trip on my own two feet. I get frustrated and want to give up.

    God has been the greatest dance partner in my life. I choose to honor God by letting Him lead me through this journey of life. The dance is beautiful and smooth. It is filled with joy.

    I encourage you to Choose to honor God by letting Him lead you on your life journey too.

    He will be the best dance partner you’ve ever had.

    And it will be a beautiful dance!

    With love and joy,

    Laura

  • How do you define Joy?

    There are times in life when my heart and soul feel heavy. A heaviness that I can’t seem to shake. A heaviness that seems to take away my joy at times.

    I know that JOY is a choice. So, how do I choose joy when everything around seems anything but joyful?

    My youngest sister Sara, was confined to the four walls of her home the last 3 years of her life. In spite of all she experienced with her health, she chose joy.

    When asked how she defined joy, she came up with this definition:

    The unwavering trust that God knows what He is doing and has blessed me with an opportunity to be a part of it. Not despite what is happening in my life, but because of it. When everything earthly feels heavy, He gives me an internal lightness that can’t be touched.

    I’d like to break it apart together.

    The unwavering trust that God knows what He is doing…

    Unwavering – When something is unwavering, it is firm. It is unshakable. My trust, my confidence, faith and hope in God must be firm. It can’t be shaken. When life throws me lemons, I can make lemonade. I must be firm in my faith that God knows what He is doing. I must believe it and trust it.

     Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. [Proverbs 3:5-6]

    …and has blessed me with with the opportunity to be part of it.

    The life I am living is a gift from God. It is a blessing. It is a set of circumstances that I can choose to see as a gift. I have a choice to see the circumstances in my life as a burden, or a blessing. I choose to focus on my circumstances as a gift whether positive or negative. This perspective allows me to see my life as an opportunity.

    Not despite what is happening in my life, but because of it.

    Despite is to see life as a blessing without the affect of what is happening in my life. Regardless of whether I am facing negative or positive in my life, I choose joy because of life itself. Because life is a gift.

    For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. [Psalm 139:13-14]

    When everything earthly feels heavy, He gives me an internal lightness that can’t be touched.

    My life is all about Him! It’s not about me. When I focus on God, I maintain a firm belief in His plan for me and my life. No matter my circumstances, I will find the joy that is down deep in my heart to stay.

    I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. [Galatians 2:20]

    Write out this definition of JOY. Put it in a place that is easy to access and read. Better yet, define what joy means to you!

    We are in a world that needs Him. God is love. He is always with us and never leaves us. He gives us that internal lightness that can’t be touched.

    With joy and love,

    Laura

  • Limited Visibility

    Moments in time.

    One BIG learning I have had in my life is to be intentional in savoring the little every day moments. There are moments that may not seem a big deal at the time. But, they become a big deal when they are gone.

    I learned this very quickly after losing my dad and sister. I realized that the things I missed the most were the things that I deemed little. They were even irritating at times.

    An example for me were the “dad joke’s” we’ve all experienced. Those jokes that we roll our eyes at and laugh a bit out of respect. Well, I would give anything to hear one of dad’s jokes again!

    I had the joy of spending this past week with my 1 and 3 year old grandchildren. I quickly realized that I had forgotten what it was like to get very little sleep! I also forgot that any plans I make might as well be dismissed. The kids’ plans take precedence.

    I don’t know about you, but I catch myself when I am in one moment, wishing for another. Instead of savoring the moments I am blessed with, I waste them wanting something different. When I do that, I am not appreciating the blessings God is giving to me.

    Moments are just that. Moments. Once they happen, they are gone. The moment is gone, but the memory of that moment lasts a life time. I want to be intentional in savoring every moment I have with those I love. I want to make special and joy filled memories for those I love to treasure for a lifetime.

    My eyes, no matter how clear and focused on Christ, are cloudy compared to His.

    I can’t see the beauty God is creating beyond what is right in front of me. I can’t see how He takes something that seems fearful, sad, or unjust, and shines His light in and through to redeem it into beauty.

    I can’t see ahead into the unknown and I have to remember that none of it is unknown to Him. 

    My job is to savor my moments.

    In my limited vision, at the age of 66, dad was taken away too soon. I trust that God has the vision to see where true beauty lies. I have faith and hope that He takes those times of hurt and sadness and shines His light in and through them to redeem their beauty. I choose to look for the beauty.

    He has the perspective. We have the life we are given by our circumstances. And if we trust Him, really trust Him, I believe He will always make sure there is beauty beyond our limited vision.

    And I will always praise Him for that.

    I am grateful for savoring many of the moments I had with my dad. The trips with him in the semi. The rides on the tractor when he was in the field. The days I was able to follow him around the farm and learn many life lessons. The calls I would receive from him when he was in the field. There are so many memories I savor.

    I want to create those same treasured moments for my children and grandchildren. I want to continue to create those treasured moments for me.

    I savor those moments and realize now more than ever the importance of those moments in my life. It’s those moments that I can turn to and fill my heart with joy.

    Be intentional in savoring the little everyday moments!

    With love and joy,

    Laura