Tag: faith

  • Transform Your Choices: Embrace the Greater Good

    Transform Your Choices: Embrace the Greater Good

    Lesser of Two Evils vs Greater of Two Goods.

    As I prepare for a new year, I find it interesting that people are so anxious to move on from one year to the next knowing that we are beginning next year the same as this year will end. I am not trying to be debbie downer but isn’t that our reality?

    What are we doing differently as we begin next year to make it a year we won’t be ready to leave behind? One where people are not so divided and angry; where instead of hate we love; where instead of skepticism we trust.

    At Choose Ministry we focus on empowering and equipping people to make Godly choices that will transform their everyday lives. God has blessed us with a free will to choose, and it is up to us to choose Him and trust His word. We may not be able to control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond.

    What I have discovered over the past several years is that sometimes our perspective is choosing the lesser of two evils instead of choosing the greater of two goods. The lesser of two evils begins our choices with division, hate, and skepticism. We end up feeling like we are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

    I don’t want to get into politics or any other debate, as that is not my point to writing this. What I do want is for us, is to open our minds, hearts, and prayers to the fact that the greatest good is God. If we want our choices to begin with good, we have to begin with God. He is good and perfect.

    God will direct us, love us, and give us hope in this imperfect world. He is our cord of Hope! His word is truth and will take away skepticism. He is love and will take away hate and anger. He is telling us to love our neighbor as He has loved us. So what is our Godly choice? LOVE

    In those times when the choice you face seems to be the lesser of two evils, turn to Him. Ask Him to direct your path. Ask Him to give you an open mind, humble heart, and faithful feet to walk where He leads. And then, trust His direction and love as He has loved you.

    It’s really about changing our perspective from the lesser of two evils to the greater of two goods. Will you join me this next year on focusing on the greater of two goods instead of the lesser of two evils?

    With love and joy, 

    Laura

  • Embracing Thanksgiving with a Grateful Heart

    Embracing Thanksgiving with a Grateful Heart

    As the Holiday season begins, families across the United States gather around the table to share a bountiful feast, warm conversations, and cherished moments. Thanksgiving is a time honored tradition reminding us of the importance of gratitude, love, and connection.

    For those navigating grief, loss, or hardship, Thanksgiving can be a painful reminder of what’s missing.

    I want to acknowledge the complexity of emotions that come with celebrating Thanksgiving during difficult times and offer words of encouragement to help you find gratitude in the darkness.

    It’s important to recognize that sorrow and gratitude are not mutually exclusive. You can experience both at the same time. It is okay to not be okay.

    Beyond the delicious food, festive decorations, and football games, Thanksgiving is a celebration of gratitude. It’s a time to appreciate loved ones.

    Cherish the people who have and do enrich your life. The ones who support you through thick and thin, and bring joy to your heart. When those loved ones are a memory, share the stories and memories. Have gratitude for the time you did have with them and the difference they made in your life.

    Thanksgiving on my family’s farm were always times filled with laughter and joy. We played tons of games, ate and laughed till our stomachs hurt, and enjoyed time with family and extended family.

    Then, within one year of each other, we lost my dad and sister Sara. They were both individuals who filled so much space in a person’s heart and soul, because they did everything with their whole heart and soul.

    So how did I find gratitude in a time of sorrow?

    Well, I have a lot of arguing between my head and my heart. Does that ever happen to you?

    I long for their hug, their conversation, their wisdom, their love (that is my heart speaking). Then my head argues with my heart. “You know they are much happier. How selfish of you to want them back for your own needs. They are still with you in spirit.”

    So, how do I get my head and heart to agree?

    First I go to God. He knows my past, my present, and my future. He is surprised by nothing. He is with me and never leaves me, even when I feel alone. He holds me up, even when I think I’m standing on my own two feet. He is good, all the time.

    Then I praise Him through it, because gratitude and praise unlock the fullness of life.

    Gratitude without expressing it is like having a present and not opening it.

    ~ William Arthur Ward

    I intentionally change my perspective. I express gratitude for all the years I was blessed to share my life with them. I am thankful for their joy and laughter. Thankful for the twinkle in their eyes, the dance in their step, and the song in their voice. I am thankful for their wisdom and teaching.

    I miss everything about them and am thankful that they lived big, played big, worked hard and loved even harder. I am also grateful that God chose me to be their family. What an honor.

    “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

    Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

    So, this Thanksgiving, when you are dwelling on sorrow or hurt, when your head and heart are arguing, think instead of something for which you are grateful. I promise you, it’s as simple as that.

    You have to choose gratitude today and again tomorrow. Before you know it, you will feel the joy in your heart.

    P.S. So, why do I keep arguing with myself? I think it’s because I am jealous. God has them now. I am thankful He shared them with me as long as He did, my selfishness wanted them longer.

    Happy Thanksgiving, friends! I am grateful for you all.

  • Torn Between Two Worlds – Part 5

    Walking with God in the in between.

    Can joy be found in the hurt and sorrow of life?

    I personally know it is possible to choose joy even when life hurts. It is a choice, and a choice that is possible when I fully surrender my life to God. Surrender and trust, without conditions.

    I found joy in Him. I chose Him.

    You see, behind each door we choose to open, there is a place, a journey, just like the long hall in Alice in Wonderland. When we choose a door to walk through, we are responsible for the outcome that is behind that door. God blessed us with the gift of free will, we make the choice.

    We can choose the journey with or without God. There are going to be times of joy and peace as well as pain and difficulty behind any door we choose, and we can walk it with His guidance or the world’s guidance.

    Each of these times in my life, I found myself in a place of in between. A place of no longer and not yet. There is so much unknown in the place of in between, and the unknown can be our biggest enemy sometimes. The thing we put most of our focus on and our energy into trying to control. The “what ifs” take over our thinking and anxiety is out of control.

    I have learned the importance of fully living in the middle of the hard, the here and known. Because if this is my life, if this is where I am at, then this is where God is at too.

    I choose to take one step at a time with Him in the in between. I choose to be brave with Him. I choose to connect with Him. I choose to walk with Him. I choose Him. It is only with Him that I find the peace in my heart needed to accept and trust the journey He has laid out before me.

    I have awakened and my worlds are no longer torn. That doesn’t mean there aren’t difficulties, heartache, and at times I start to fall down that hole. The difference is, I have learned to quickly stop and change my perspective. Seek Him and choose to not be a victim of the circumstance.

    I have learned that when I choose to do this life with God, I no longer fall to the bottom of the hole where I feel torn!

    For you have rescued me from death; you have kept my feet from slipping. So now I can walk in your presence, O God, in your life-giving light.

    Psalm 56:13 (NIV)

  • Torn Between Two Worlds, Part 4

    Saying yes to God’s call. Finding hope and healing through breast cancer.

    As Sara was in her last days on earth, one of the last things she said to me was, “I want people to continue believing, trusting and having faith in God, as I have tried to be His disciple. But, she said, it’s not about me, it’s about Him. That is the message I want people to hear.

    “Our message is not about ourselves. It is about Jesus Christ as the Lord. We are your servants for his sake.”

    2 Corinthians 4:5

    It was in that moment that I began to do more than just read Sara’s God inspired words and message. I began seeing and feeling God’s message through her. I saw the direct connections and wisdom that only comes from Him. I began to understand how she chose joy despite the emotional and physical pain she experienced.

    I began a journey of experiencing this intimate relationship with Jesus that I longed for. The whispers of the Holy Spirit that I heard, trusted, and discerned to be from Him, not just my own wants and desires.

    I heard a call from God on my own life. He put on my heart that just because Sara was no longer on earth physically, the God inspired message she began, didn’t have to end. He was asking me to pick up the message and follow Him.

    I began walking a journey through the publishing industry that was only possible because of Him. I stepped out in faith and He put in front of me what I needed, when I needed it.

    God was the key I needed to open the door to light and beauty!

    In 2016 my family and I celebrated the release of Sara’s spirit led teaching in the book, Choose Joy: Finding Hope and Purpose When Life Hurts.

    I began speaking and continuing to share the message that God called me to share. A message that the choices we make, make us. A message of how to choose joy when life hurts.

    I am choosing to follow Him and say yes to His call for my life.

    I had just began speaking and developing the choose joy ministry when I received a call that caught me off guard. The call was from my doctor with the message that I have breast cancer. In shock, disbelief, and with lots of questions, I had decisions to make. Decisions on treatment, surgery, and further testing.

    Once again reeling in fear of the unknown, now my own mortality. Worried about my children, husband, and family. Trying to be strong for them. I didn’t want to cause them worry and fear. I was once again trying to control an outcome I had no control over.

    God, what is the purpose of this set back? I am spreading His message, so why? Why? Why? Why?

    This time, instead of falling down the dark hole and letting the door close and lock, instead of asking why, which left me in a state of being victim, I decided to change my perspective. Instead of why, I asked what and how. What do you need Lord? How can I serve?

    It didn’t mean I wasn’t still overwhelmed and the emotion of fear didn’t creep in. What it did mean, was that I wasn’t in a locked dark hole that I longed to escape. In the midst of the hard, I still felt the peace, love, and joy of the Lord.

    In those times of being overwhelmed, I would say Psalm 46:10 over and over again:

    “Be still and know that I am God.“

    Be still and know that I AM. Be still and know. Be still. Be.

    God needed me to be still. He was working through me now, not Sara. I was hiding behind Sara’s story. It was time that I had an impact on the world with my own story. The sooner I trusted Him, the sooner the fall into the rabbit hole would stop and I began climbing out.

    Like the veil that was torn as a result of Jesus’ death on the cross, I no longer needed to be torn between two worlds. Between her and God. I am a spiritual being sent here to live out a human existence. As a spiritual being, the only one I need to trust and have faith in, is God.

  • Torn Between Two Worlds, Part 2

    Finding Strength in Faith Through Divorce and Loss.

    I was working at my first job out of college, met a gentleman, fell in love, got married, and were blessed with two children. Sounds like a happily ever after story, doesn’t it?

    Unfortunately, I had four pregnancies and lost two children through miscarriage.

    Miscarriage, though often shrouded in silence and stigma, affects countless women and families. It leaves deep scars that seem impossible to heal. As a Christian woman, I was not immune to this pain. But, I do have the blessed assurance of a loving God who weeps with me and offers comfort in my darkest moments.

    Miscarriage is a painful and unexpected loss that left me feeling isolated and uncertain. The excitement and anticipation of welcoming a new life was suddenly replaced with grief, guilt, and unanswered questions.

    The first miscarriage was within the first trimester of the pregnancy. The second, was within the second trimester which made the process more difficult as I had to undergo a D&C procedure.

    Although I knew the baby was not alive, going through this procedure left me feeling like I had an abortion. The emotional turmoil was more than I could bear. I had fallen into a dark hole of guilt and sorrow. I wasn’t sure how to process the loss of a child that I never got to see or hold.

    One day, my mom and I stood together on the deck outside my home. We were engaged in a heartfelt conversation about my emotional turmoil. Her profound words struck a chord deep within me: ‘Everything God blesses us with in this life isn’t truly ours. They are God’s. Every gift, no matter how precious, is temporary. Our eternal home, our true haven, is with Him.

    ‘Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
    James 1:17 (NIV)

    Isn’t that true? As Christians everything we have comes from God and is ultimately His. We are blessed with the opportunity to use and love all that God gives us for the time He allows.

    The loss of the two children were between the two children God allowed me to raise. When they were three and six my husband at that time, told me he needed some time away. He needed time to himself for a while. What did this mean?

    My world quickly began to feel like I was falling back into that dark unknown world again. What did he mean time away? Was I the issue? So many questions with no answers as to why.

    The “time away” went from weeks to months. Eventually it led to him telling me he wasn’t coming home. That I should do what I needed to do.

    Those words shook me to the core. This went against everything I believed in. I made a vow before God that I could no longer hold on to. Someone else was making that choice for me. That door that led to peace, love, and joy, was slammed shut and locked. As hard as I tried, I could not find the key to open the door.

    I fell back into the world of feeling insignificant and unloved. I couldn’t do anything to make him stay. What was I going to tell my children? Divorce was unacceptable. I worried about my family being disappointed in me and surely God was going to be disappointed and angry.

    Every time I closed my eyes, I would see colorful lights swirling continuously. I was thrown into a place I didn’t want to be. A place I was trying to fight with all my might.

    Just as Alice in Wonderland, my tears betrayed me and began spilling over. I was once again treading water. I was tired and yet had to be strong for my children. I didn’t want them to experience a torn world.

    I had to dig deep in my faith to understand what God wanted for me on this journey. I knew he didn’t condone divorce and I knew I couldn’t control the decision of my husband.

    God is so faithful! My husband chose not to make our marriage work, but God put in front of me friends and family who loved and guided my children and I through the journey. Friends who helped me see a God who loves me unconditionally. A God who will always carry me when I am tired and scared. They spoke life into me, making me stronger and more confident in myself and the Godly choices I had available to me.

    Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way 
    will fulfill the law of Christ.
    Galatians 6:2 (NIV)

    This journey took my faith and relationship with God to a deeper level. Trying to understand Godly choices in a worldly circumstance took intentional time with Him. It also forced me to be intentional in seeking out Christian counsel. Individuals who would assist me in moving forward. Encouraging me not to get stuck in a place of being a victim of circumstance. 

    I wanted to find the key that opened the door to that beautiful world of love, peace, and joy. In time, I did find joy, and love, being content in my new circumstances.

    I grew not only in my faith in God but also in myself. I found more confidence and strength in myself than I ever thought I had within me.

    God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore, we will not fear, though the earth give way
    and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though
    its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake
    with their surging.

    Psalm 46:1-3 (NIV)

    Amid the hurt and fear, God was always there loving and carrying me.