Category: loss

  • All about the Comma

    All about the Comma

    “Never put a period where God has put a comma. God is still speaking.” – Gracie Allen

    Have you ever felt like your life was over, like there was no more hope, no more chances?

    Maybe you’ve faced a difficult diagnosis, a painful breakup, or a career-ending failure. In those moments, it’s easy to believe that God has put a period at the end of your story.

    But, are you still alive?

    If so, I’d like to encourage you. God didn’t put a period. Instead, He put a comma. If you are still alive, you still have living to do!

    He put a comma to indicate a pause, a breath, a new clause in the sentence of your life.

    This quote, “Never put a period where God puts a comma,” powerfully reminds us that our lives are not over. This is true even when it feels like they are.

    It’s a reminder that God is still writing our story. He has a plan to prosper us, not to harm us (Jeremiah 29:11).

    Let’s take a look at the story of Lazarus.

    In John 11, we read the story of Lazarus, a man who was sick and died. His sisters, Mary and Martha, were devastated. They hoped that Jesus would come and heal their brother. However, He didn’t arrive until after Lazarus had passed away.

    In their grief, Mary and Martha put a period at the end of Lazarus’ story. They believed that his life was over, and that there was no more hope.

    But Jesus came and said, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die” (John 11:25).

    And then, in one of the most amazing moments in all of Scripture, Jesus called out to Lazarus, “Come out!” (John 11:43). And Lazarus, who had been dead for four days, came out of the tomb, alive!

    This story is a powerful reminder that God doesn’t always put periods. Sometimes, He puts commas.

    And when He does, it means that there is more to come. There is more life to live. There is more hope to hold onto.

    Friend, If you’re feeling like your life is over, it may seem like there’s no more hope or chances. Remember, God doesn’t always put periods. He puts commas. And that means that there is always more to come, there is more life to live.

    Never put a period where God puts a comma.

    These are powerful words to live by. They remind us that our lives are not over, even when it feels like they are. God is still writing our story, and He has a plan to prosper us, not to harm us.

    I remember sitting with my sweet sister Sara during her last days here on earth. One of the last things she said was, “I want people to continue learning. Learning to believe and trust in God as I have tried to be God’s disciple. BUT,” she said, “it’s not about me. It’s about Him. That is the message I want people to hear.”

    Sara and God didn’t want to end this ministry. Event though He put a period on her life physically, the message needed to continue.

    She and God wanted to use a comma.

    It has been quite a journey. Sometimes it feels like God has put a period as I struggle to understand next steps. He has also shown me time and time again that it’s only a comma.

    My role is to be intentional. Be intentional in keeping an open mind, a humble heart, and faithful feet, to walk where HE leads.

    I encourage you, take a deep breath, my friend. Trust that God has more in store for you. He sometimes puts commas, not periods. And that means that there is always hope, always more life to live.

    Our role is to be intentional in remembering, this life is not about us. It’s not about our wants, needs, and desires. It is about Him. It’s about Him using us to fulfill His plan and purpose for us and this world.

    Stay tuned…more to come,

    With love and joy,

    Laura

  • Where is God in the Shadows?

    Where is God in the Shadows?

    Jesus did not come to explain away suffering or remove it. He came to fill it with His presence. ~Paul Claudel

    We have many questions when we face difficult and tragic situations. One of the biggest is: “Why do bad things happen to good people.”

    A natural response when bad things are happening, is why? If God is good and all powerful, why doesn’t He stop the pain and suffering?

    God sits with us in our sadness. Accompanies us through the valley of the shadows. Holds our hand in our moments of fear.

    Suffering will look different for every believer in Jesus Christ. However, the desired end result should look the same when following Christ. 1Peter 4:12-13 MSG says, 

    “Friends, when life gets really difficult, don’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job. Instead, be glad that you are in the very thick of what Christ experienced. This is a spiritual refining process, with glory just around the corner.” 

    When I choose to let Him, God fills me with His presence in my spirit. I can feel strong in the middle of that weakness.

    Emotionally, it’s called a pit of despair for a reason. A hole can be dug inside us so deep that it seems everything good has been excavated from our lives.

    We all experience it in different ways. You may have lost someone you love. Or you may have found yourself in situations you never dreamed you would be facing.

    A pit is dug. And despair is the first visitor that wants to knock at your door.

    It’s in those moments I pray for God to get me out of His way. It’s those moments when I start praying for Him to change my heart for what He wants. Pray that I can be aware of the opportunities He has planned for me.

    It’s taken me a while, but I realize, this life is not about me. It’s not about my wants and desires. It is about Him. It’s about me saying yes to what He can do through me.

    It requires me to trust Him completely. It doesn’t change the loss. It doesn’t improve my earthly situation.

    But it does change the suffering.

    It allows me to not answer the door to despair and instead invite His presence into the pit. The pit looks jagged and deep. It turns out to be a God-shaped hole in the center of our beings. A hole that is dug by circumstances and choices, and we can choose to fill it with His grace.

    We all live in a place of unknown realities. He has ensured that we don’t have to suffer.

    We get to choose whether to trust Him. Then, ask Him to show us how He wants to use us.

    Then, say yes.

    With love and joy,

    Laura

  • Limited Visibility

    Limited Visibility

    Moments in time.

    One BIG learning I have had in my life is to be intentional in savoring the little every day moments. There are moments that may not seem a big deal at the time. But, they become a big deal when they are gone.

    I learned this very quickly after losing my dad and sister. I realized that the things I missed the most were the things that I deemed little. They were even irritating at times.

    An example for me were the “dad joke’s” we’ve all experienced. Those jokes that we roll our eyes at and laugh a bit out of respect. Well, I would give anything to hear one of dad’s jokes again!

    I had the joy of spending this past week with my 1 and 3 year old grandchildren. I quickly realized that I had forgotten what it was like to get very little sleep! I also forgot that any plans I make might as well be dismissed. The kids’ plans take precedence.

    I don’t know about you, but I catch myself when I am in one moment, wishing for another. Instead of savoring the moments I am blessed with, I waste them wanting something different. When I do that, I am not appreciating the blessings God is giving to me.

    Moments are just that. Moments. Once they happen, they are gone. The moment is gone, but the memory of that moment lasts a life time. I want to be intentional in savoring every moment I have with those I love. I want to make special and joy filled memories for those I love to treasure for a lifetime.

    My eyes, no matter how clear and focused on Christ, are cloudy compared to His.

    I can’t see the beauty God is creating beyond what is right in front of me. I can’t see how He takes something that seems fearful, sad, or unjust, and shines His light in and through to redeem it into beauty.

    I can’t see ahead into the unknown and I have to remember that none of it is unknown to Him. 

    My job is to savor my moments.

    In my limited vision, at the age of 66, dad was taken away too soon. I trust that God has the vision to see where true beauty lies. I have faith and hope that He takes those times of hurt and sadness and shines His light in and through them to redeem their beauty. I choose to look for the beauty.

    He has the perspective. We have the life we are given by our circumstances. And if we trust Him, really trust Him, I believe He will always make sure there is beauty beyond our limited vision.

    And I will always praise Him for that.

    I am grateful for savoring many of the moments I had with my dad. The trips with him in the semi. The rides on the tractor when he was in the field. The days I was able to follow him around the farm and learn many life lessons. The calls I would receive from him when he was in the field. There are so many memories I savor.

    I want to create those same treasured moments for my children and grandchildren. I want to continue to create those treasured moments for me.

    I savor those moments and realize now more than ever the importance of those moments in my life. It’s those moments that I can turn to and fill my heart with joy.

    Be intentional in savoring the little everyday moments!

    With love and joy,

    Laura

  • A Long Way From Your Heart

    A Long Way From Your Heart

    It is January and the temperature this week has been in the upper fifties! When that happens in Iowa, you must take advantage of it. So, I went on a walk and was praising God.

    For some reason, I started thinking about something my dad use to say. Whenever we would get hurt, he would try to make us feel better by looking at our hurt and saying:

    You know what the good thing about this is, don’t you? It’s a long way from your heart.”

    Then he’d laugh while trying to get me to laugh and think about anything else but my hurt. As I’m sure many of you can relate, those dad sayings were frustrating at the time.

    Eventually, I understood his lesson behind the distraction. That no physical ailment could change my heart. That every hurt would pass and I would still be the same on the inside regardless of the outside.

    I’ve had opportunity to put that saying to the test in my adult life, and I’ve realized something about Dad’s theory…

    I realize that some hurts aren’t a long way from my heart. Some hurts reside there. But, they don’t have to change who I am inside.

    They don’t have to change my faith.

    Every lesson I learned before the hurt remains the same after.

    Nothing is different. God is the same. Love is the same.

    No matter how much my heart hurts.

    I get to choose my perspective. I get to choose between faith or fear; victory or victim; joy or despair; bitterness or hope. It is my choice and what I choose will decide the healing of my heart.

    Through the many hurts I have experienced, I have chosen to trust in Him. Trusting in Him, is an all or nothing decision. If I choose to trust Him, I can’t choose fear or bitterness. I can’t choose to be a victim or filled with despair.

    It’s an all or nothing decision.

    Going through divorce, cancer, and loss, didn’t change my choice to trust in Him. I know better, so I can’t pretend to be ignorant simply because my life was suddenly altered.

    Even in the hardest times, I trust that God has never changed. His grace surrounds me every moment of every day. He knows all, sees all, and understands all. I trust Him with everything. I can walk through this life aiming to fulfill what I realize I may never understand.

    This life may seem random to me, but it is not random to Him. And that is enough for me.

    It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone. ~Ephesians 1:11 MSG

    I pray you know that you can make the choice for it to be enough for you too.

    With love and joy,

    Laura